Wants vs. Needs

Hi peeps…

So this past week has been a pretty tough one. We found out that our insurance is being changed. Then we found out that our insurance is doubling. Health insurance. Just when we thought that we had figured out how to handle having me on Shane’s insurance plan, it changed. This would be ok, because so far, we are both healthy individuals and most carriers would take us. The only problem is that this change just brings forth another headache. Now we have to re-budget (I know… not a word)… and start saving. Part of the things that this new insurance has is a very high deductible which means that if either one of us needs to go into the hospital for any reason we will get charged as much as our first-born’s college education. Needless to say we are anxious and praying for a solution to this obstacle on the road… especially since we WANT to have children within the next few years. For now all we can think of is to put every little penny aside… So we are still trying to figure THAT out… but all of this got me thinking…

What things can I get rid off? What are needs in my life and what are wants. Then I thought about cutting back on our dining, but we HAVE been doing that since the beginning of the year. We don’t go clubbing (I’ve always thought that was such a cool word!), we are not drinkers, we don’t have any expensive habits (except that car situation… I sooooo need to write THAT post). So what do we do? Where do we cut back?

Then I went to the mall because when you need to think clearly you need to go to the mall. I walked around, I looked at jewelry, I fell in love with a million things. I didn’t buy a thing. This wasn’t difficult to me as I am pretty good at exercising self-control… but what my little walk down shop heaven gave me was perspective. I don’t need the gorgeous watch. I don’t need the shiny earrings, I don’t need the new case for my phone… Those are wants. They are big stinky wants that don’t do anything but put a hold on our future… and while I KNEW this already… the trip to the mall was what I needed to remind myself that all of those material things are just “pacifiers.”

So today I got a reality check… and I liked it.

Now I WANT my NEEDS. I want(need) to have good health, I want(need) to save money for our future. I want(need) to have a happy home life. Basically I WANT what I already have (except the money for our future; we are working on that!)… and I NEED to continue having these things in my life… They are what keep me Alive. Happy. Safe.

Until next time…

Your friendly neighborhood SuperWife.

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The Gym… and Me in it…

Today I went to the gym. Actually today was day 2(!) of my gym adventure. I must say that although I would like to take the credit for my health kick decision… well I can’t. My VERY annoying husband can take about 80% of the credit… the other 10% can be given to my life long friend (who bribes me with gossip and time with her children- works every time!) … and the last 10% is ME. I would like to point out that I HATE THE GYM. So the fact that there is ANY percentage that can be credited to me… is WELL A LOT!

Part of this whole new gym thing is to get healthy. It’s not a new year’s resolution… it’s just a health kick the hubby and I are in. We have to get healthy for ourselves, for our families and for our future children. Although we are not COMPLETELY out of shape or obese… we could use some “shaping up”; specially since going upstairs in our townhouse feels like a chore!

I must say that I feel good about this newfound “activity” that I have. You see I’m going through a somewhat different body transformation, and I have yet to get to know… my body. This may not make sense to some of you but its kinda like a cleanse… without all the colon pills and irrational diets. Basically I am watching what I am eating, I am trying not to put garbage in my body… in the form of modern medicine or horrible foods (although I MUST admit, and only because my husband is reading this… I haven’t fully accomplished the food part). Part of this plan is to prepare myself for the rest of my life and the plans that I have for our family. The plans that I have for this year.

Doing this has brought to my attention that some things we cannot control. Which leads me to this: I AM A CONTROL FREAK, there I said it. With this body thing, and with most other things in my life, I want to be able to say that I have control over the situation. With this whole body planning thing I do not have control. I can watch what I eat, I can exercise, but I can’t get my body to do what I want it to do… and I have to admit, this is sometimes a bit frustrating. So this “waiting” time in my life is teaching me many lessons.

Wanna know what they are??? (I KNOW YOU DO!)… And I LOVE lists!

* I have to have patience

* I have to let some things “just be”

* I do NOT have control over everything

* My life is great just the way it is

* I have to have patience

* Oh did I tell you that I have to have patience?

OK so maybe I’m still learning about those lessons. Maybe I am dealing with a bit of denial regarding the lessons I may have omitted in this post. Maybe this is going to be harder than I thought! WISH ME LUCK!!!

Until next time…

Your friendly neighborhood SuperWife…

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